Ehsas-e-Kamtari Ka Ilaj: Quran Ki Roshni Mein Khud Aitmadi Kaise Paida Karein


"Main kisi qabil nahin." "Sab mujh se behtar hain." "Mera rang saanwla hai, koi rishta nahin aayega." "Mere number kam hain, main nakam hoon."


Agar aise jumle aap ke zehan mein baar baar aate hain, to aap ehsas-e-kamtari (inferiority complex) ka shikar ho sakte hain. Yeh woh kaifiyat hai jis mein insaan apni khoobiyon ko nazar andaz kar ke sirf apni kamiyon ko dekhta hai, aur khud ko doosron se kamtar samajhne lagta hai.

Hamare muashre mein yeh masla bohat aam hai, kyunke yahan aksar insaan ki qeemat us ki shakal, rang, daulat, khandaan ya numbers se lagayi jati hai. Yeh article batata hai ke Quran o Sunnat insaan ki asal qeemat ke baare mein kya kehte hain, aur khud aitmadi kaise paida ki ja sakti hai.


Ehsas-e-Kamtari Kyun Paida Hota Hai?


1. Bachpan ke tajurbaat


Baar baar doosre bachon se muwazana: "Dekho tumhare cousin ke kitne number aaye!"

Tanqeed, mazaaq ya be-izzati.

Mohabbat aur hausla afzai ki kami.


2. Muashre ke ghalat paimane

Rang:

Rishton mein gore rang ki talab, aur saanwle rang ko kamtar samajhna.

Shakal o surat: Qad, wazan ya chehre ka mazaaq (body shaming).

Daulat: Ghareeb ko kamtar aur ameer ko behtar samajhna.

Numbers aur degree: Insaan ki qeemat ko sirf taleemi nataij se tolna.


3. Social media


Doosron ki "mukammal" tasweerein aur kamyabiyan dekh kar apni zindagi bekaar lagne lagti hai, halanke log sirf apni zindagi ka behtareen hissa dikhate hain.


Quran Insaan Ki Izzat Ke Baare Mein Kya Kehta Hai?


1. Har insaan izzat wala hai

وَلَقَدْ كَرَّمْنَا بَنِي آدَمَ (Surah Al-Isra: 70)

Aur yaqeenan hum ne Bani Adam ko izzat bakhshi.

Yeh izzat kisi rang, khandaan ya daulat ki wajah se nahin; har insaan ko insaan hone ki wajah se yeh izzat di gayi hai.


2. Behtareen saakht

لَقَدْ خَلَقْنَا الْإِنسَانَ فِي أَحْسَنِ تَقْوِيمٍ (Surah At-Teen: 4)

Yaqeenan hum ne insaan ko behtareen saakht mein paida kiya.

Jis Allah ne aap ko banaya, us ne aap ko "ahsan-e-taqweem", yani behtareen saakht, mein banaya. Apni shakal ya jism ko haqeer samajhna, dar-asal is takhleeq ki qadar na karna hai.


3. Mazaaq urane ki mumaniat

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا يَسْخَرْ قَوْمٌ مِّن قَوْمٍ عَسَىٰ أَن يَكُونُوا خَيْرًا مِّنْهُمْ (Surah Al-Hujurat: 11)

Ae imaan walo! Koi qaum kisi qaum ka mazaaq na uraye, ho sakta hai ke woh un se behtar hon.

Islam ne us muashrati bimari ki jar kaat di jo ehsas-e-kamtari paida karti hai: doosron ka mazaaq urana aur unhein kamtar samajhna.


Seerat Ki Teen Roshan Misalein


1. Hazrat Abdullah bin Masood ki patli pindliyan

Hazrat Abdullah bin Masood dubale patle aur chhote qad ke the. Ek din woh miswak ke liye darakht par charhe, aur hawa se un ki patli pindliyan zahir hueen. Kuch log hans pare. Rasool-e-Akram صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَعَلَى آلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ ne poocha: "Kis baat par hanste ho?" Logon ne kaha: "In ki patli pindliyon par." Aap صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَعَلَى آلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ ne farmaya: "Us zaat ki qasam jis ke qabze mein meri jaan hai! Yeh mizaan mein Uhud pahaar se bhi zyada bhari hain" (Musnad Ahmad).

Sabaq: Allah ke haan insaan ka wazan us ke jism se nahin, us ke imaan aur amal se hai.


2. Hazrat Bilal: ghulami se izzat tak

Hazrat Bilal Habshi ek ghulam the, siyah faam, aur makki muashre mein kamtar samjhe jate the. Magar Islam ne inhein woh izzat di ke Rasool-e-Akram صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَعَلَى آلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ ne inhein Islam ka pehla moazzin banaya, aur farmaya ke main ne jannat mein apne aage tumhare qadmon ki aahat suni (Sahih Bukhari).

Sabaq: Rang aur samaji haisiyat Allah ke haan kisi ki qeemat tay nahin karte.


3. Hazrat Julaybeeb: "Woh mujh se hai"

Hazrat Julaybeeb ek ghareeb sahabi the, jin ki surat bhi khaas khoobsurat nahin samjhi jati thi, aur un ka koi bara khandaan bhi nahin tha. Ek ghazwe mein woh shaheed hue. Rasool-e-Akram صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَعَلَى آلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ ne un ke jism ke paas khare ho kar farmaya: "Yeh mujh se hai aur main is se hoon" (Sahih Muslim).

Sabaq: Jise muashra nazar andaz kare, woh Allah aur us ke Rasool صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَعَلَى آلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ ke haan bohat qeemti ho sakta hai.


Hazrat Musa: Kamzori Ke Bawajood Aitmaad


Hazrat Musa alaihis salam ko zabaan mein kuch rukawat thi, aur jab inhein Firaun ke paas jane ka hukm mila, to unhon ne dua ki:

رَبِّ اشْرَحْ لِي صَدْرِي ۝ وَيَسِّرْ لِي أَمْرِي ۝ وَاحْلُلْ عُقْدَةً مِّن لِّسَانِي ۝ يَفْقَهُوا قَوْلِي (Surah Taha: 25 ta 28)


Ae mere Rab! Mera seena khol de, aur mera kaam mere liye aasan kar de, aur meri zabaan ki girah khol de, taake log meri baat samajh sakein.

Sabaq: Hazrat Musa ne apni kamzori ko chhupaya nahin, aur na hi is ki wajah se apne mission se peeche hatay. Unhon ne kamzori ko tasleem kiya, Allah se madad maangi, aur aage barhe. Yahi asal khud aitmadi hai: kamzoriyon ke bawajood Allah par bharosa kar ke qadam uthana.


Khud Aitmadi Paida Karne Ke Saat Amli Tareeqe


Apni soch ko pehchaniye: Jab zehan kahe "main kisi qabil nahin", to ruk kar poochiye: "Kya yeh sach hai? Is ki daleel kya hai?" Aksar yeh khayalaat haqeeqat nahin, sirf purani aadatein hote hain.


Neechay walon ko dekhiye: Rasool-e-Akram صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَعَلَى آلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ ne farmaya: "Apne se neechay walon ko dekho, apne se ooper walon ko na dekho; is tarah tum Allah ki nematon ko haqeer nahin samjhoge" (Sahih Muslim). Social media ka muwazana is ka ulat hai.


Nematon ki fehrist banaiye: Rozana teen aisi cheezein likhiye jo Allah ne aap ko di hain: sehat, khandaan, koi hunar, koi khoobi.


Chhoti kamyabiyan: Chhote chhote hadaf rakhiye aur inhein poora kijiye. Har chhoti kamyabi aitmaad ki ek eent hai.


Musbat sohbat: Un logon ke saath waqt guzariye jo aap ki hausla afzai karte hain, aur jo aap ka mazaaq urate hain un se faasla rakhiye.


Koi hunar seekhiye: Naya ilm ya hunar seekhna khud aitmadi ka sab se pa'idar zariya hai. Quran parhna ya tajweed seekhna bhi ek aisi kamyabi hai jo dil ko izzat ka ehsas deti hai.


Musa alaihis salam ki dua ko mamool banaiye: Har mushkil kaam se pehle "رَبِّ اشْرَحْ لِي صَدْرِي وَيَسِّرْ لِي أَمْرِي" parhiye.


Walidain Ke Liye Ek Paighaam


Ehsas-e-kamtari ki jarein aksar bachpan mein hoti hain. Walidain se guzarish hai:





  • Bachon ka doosron se muwazana na kijiye.
  • Rang, shakal ya numbers par tanqeed na kijiye.
  • Har bache ki khaas khoobi ko pehchaniye aur us ki tareef kijiye.
  • Ghalti par islah kijiye, be-izzati nahin.


Teen Misalein


Ayesha aur rishton ka dabao: Ayesha ka rang saanwla tha, aur rishte wale baar baar inkaar kar dete the. Woh khud ko kamtar samajhne lagi. Us ki nani ne usay Hazrat Bilal ka waqia sunaya aur Surah Al-Isra ki aayat 70 yaad karayi. Ayesha ne apni taleem mukammal ki, ek school mein parhana shuru kiya, aur us ki khud aitmadi waapas laut aayi.


Danish aur numbers: Danish ke matric mein kam number aaye, aur ghar walon ne us ka muwazana us ke cousin se kiya. Woh mayus ho gaya. Ek ustad ne us ki computer mein dilchaspi pehchani aur us ki hausla afzai ki. Aaj Danish ek kamyab software developer hai.


Fatima aur social media: Fatima rozana doosri larkiyon ki tasweerein dekh kar apne aap ko bad-soorat samajhti thi. Us ne social media ka waqt kam kiya, rozana teen nematein likhna shuru kiya, aur Quran ki class join ki. Chand maheenon mein us ka nazariya badal gaya.


Kab Mahir Ki Madad Lein?


Agar ehsas-e-kamtari is had tak barh jaye ke:





  • aap logon se milna chhor dein;
  • shadeed udaasi ya mayusi ho;
  • khud se nafrat ke khayalaat aayein;
  • ya zindagi ke aham faisle karne mein musalsal rukawat ho,
  • to kisi mahir-e-nafsiyat ya counselor se zaroor mashwara kijiye.


Quran: Izzat Ka Asal Sarchashma


Jab aap Allah ka kalaam seekhte hain, to aap ko ehsas hota hai ke Allah ne aap ko kitni izzat di hai. Quran seekhna khud aitmadi ka sab se mazboot zariya hai.





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